My memory is fresh about the second Sunday of Advent, 1969. As a young pastor, I was serving my first solo church appointment. Our congregation had decorated the sanctuary for Advent\/Christmas, including a Christmas tree standing between the pulpit and the first row of pews.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As it happened, the district superintendent (my regional boss) and his wife were worshipping with us that morning. My sermon had to do with the commercialization of Christmas, and I was steamed up about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Partway through my sermon, the Christmas tree tipped over and fell to the floor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We all were a bit embarrassed by this, but there was \u201cOK, so what?\u201d laughter also. After the service, my always-gracious boss greeted me with a grin and simply said, \u201cPaul, you\u2019re a really powerful preacher!\u201d I\u2019ve never forgotten the Sunday our Christmas tree fell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With no Christmas tree in sight, I again feel the urge to get snarky about our commercial Christmas season. In my less gracious moments, it still drives me a bit crazy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s now the day after Christmas 2022. Before Christmas Day, countless commercials shouted out \u201cbuy this for the one you love!\u201d Everywhere we turned, we had endless opportunities to show our appreciation for someone we care about. Everywhere we turned, our cultural obsession with touchable, playable gifts nearly smothered us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So Santa Claus came to town again. His \u201cnaughty-nice list\u201d fits neatly into the hypergifting mentality in our culture. That list fits neatly into our unending dance with entitlement. Who\u2019s worthy of our gifts? Who isn\u2019t worthy? Unhealthy theology!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
St. Nicholas, born around A.D. 280 in Turkey, was a benevolent man around whom legends of generosity eventually morphed into Santa Claus. Then, \u201cA Visit from St. Nicholas\u201d with its opening line, \u201c\u2019 Twas the night before Christmas,\u201d was composed in 1822, and Santa Claus was a fixture in our culture\u2019s capitalistic mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Christmas advertising began in the 1820s also, so buying gifts for Christmas has been a longtime practice. And it\u2019s steamrolled over the real \u201creason for the season.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yet long before the naughty-nice list, Jesus came along with a radically different message: the Grace-based gift God offers isn\u2019t based on entitlement, but on love. From his birth as God-on-Earth to his crucifixion proclamation of forgiveness, and to how his followers \u2013 at their best \u2013 try to reflect him, Jesus embodied love, not entitlement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Folks, our understandings of the Christmas season are so out of balance with why Christmas is meant to be celebrated, which is another word for \u201chonored.\u201d Yet moments of honoring the birth of God are so often drowned out by the unending commercials begging us to \u201cbuy me!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Those of us who seek to follow the shepherds, or even the wise men, to find the baby announced by the angels, can too easily get caught up in the season of \u201dentitlement.\u201d Or how about \u201dmeritocracy\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Christmas is too often a season to decide who merits a gift \u2013 based on someone else\u2019s evaluation. But God\u2019s grace is lovingly given, not merited.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Our wrapped gifts are now unwrapped. I hope you didn\u2019t toss your gifts out with the discarded wrapping. I also hope before you put your gifts away, you spent a few moments reflecting on who gave you those gifts. Consider your gifts and how you\u2019re ready to receive them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Did I get that gift because I\u2019m entitled, or because I\u2019m loved? Will I accept the gift(s) because I\u2019m worthy, or because I\u2019m loved?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now, ask these same questions of your relationship with God (as you understand God). If \u201dbeing worthy\u201d is your primary answer, please seek a God who loves you as you are!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Rev. Paul Graves<\/strong> serves as the chair of the Council on Older Adult Ministries for the Pacific Northwest Conference of The United Methodist <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" “Christmas is too often a season to decide who merits a gift \u2013 based on someone else\u2019s evaluation, writes Rev. Paul Grave as he reflects on a season with a drifting focus. Instead, he adds, “God\u2019s grace is lovingly given, not merited.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":23124,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[73,74,16],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-23122","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-older-adult-ministries","8":"category-opinioneditorial","9":"category-pacific-northwest-conference"},"yoast_head":"\n